There are always going to be difficulties in any sort of interpersonal relations that require compromise in a relationship. Those relationships can be a manager at work, a close social friend, or a spouse/partner. The importance of communication is one of the key components to resolving any sort of interpersonal conflict. Basic principles of communication divides communication up into four primary components:
1) There is the person sending the message, called the “encoder”;
2) there is the medium by which the message is delivered (e.g., paper, video, audio);
3) The message itself; and
4) the person receiving the message, called the “decoder”. Any breakdown at any one of those system components and the message/communication will be distorted.
How do You Compromise In a Relationship?
There are plenty of nuances of meaning in human language. How often do we hear, “Well, you know what I MEANT…”? Some people may use certain words that the other person does not fully understand, or they could have a different definition altogether! Just the rhythm, cadence, intonation, and inflection can all play a role in how a particular message is decoded. Lawyers are masters at manipulating juries over the use of words. They are not ones that like to compromise in a relationship with their juries.
The importance of communication in a marriage is such that a marriage can be destroyed simply over the use of some harsh words. Even the Christian Bible says that the tongue can heal or the tongue can destroy. A spouse or partner can say, “I love you”, or they can say “I hate you”. Human beings are emotional creatures. Emotions can be manipulated by the use of words. There is a range of negative emotions such as hate, envy, jealousy, bitterness, lust, despair, hopelessness, that can all be instilled or caused simply by a wrong communication to a husband or wife. In fact, that is the role of a marriage counselor, to help mediate communications between spouses and clear up any potential misunderstandings by teaching them how to compromise in a relationship
When Someone Isn’t Willing to Compromise In a Relationship
It is an unfortunate aspect of marriage that one spouse may intentionally, deliberately, cause emotional pain to the other. People sometimes enjoy hurting one another. Even the courts and the legal system recognize psychological/emotional abuse. One partner telling the other that they are ugly or worthless is an example of emotional abuse through communications.
Ultimately a spouse is going to have to compromise in a relationship with their other half in order to have a smooth flowing relationship. Not everything in this world is going to go the way YOU want it to. In fact, it will rarely go in the exact direction that each of us may desire. People who have raised children will recognize that there is period in the child’s life, from early infancy up to the two’s and three’s, where the child truly believes the entire world revolves around THEM. The child is ego-centric. Eventually, over time and through maturity, the child, now into young adulthood, realizes that some sort of compromise is necessary in any interpersonal relationship. And one of the key components of compromise is the importance of communication skills. Marriage partners should always talk things out, preferably in nice, quiet, relaxing environment. Good communication can result in knowing how to compromise in a relationship which will lead to a happy relationship for everyone involved.